The Magic Of Forgiveness I Essay by Diya, 17, Mumbai
What happens when you forgive? Diya from Mumbai will make you think deep with her write-up.
The magic of forgiveness
Forgiveness isn’t for the person you are forgiving. It isn’t letting them off the hook. Instead, it is rising above and acknowledging that people make mistakes and that this act of forgiveness allows the person mistaken to grow as well as for you to grow. Holding a grudge is like quicksand. The more you hold it or try to push through it, you sink faster.
However, if you calmly and cautiously navigate your way around it initially, you wouldn’t be in this situation. By holding a grudge, you are showing the other person that they have a big effect on you and your mental state because holding a grudge takes energy. Always, the ones you have the greater grudge on are people who you know personally.
It is always easier to forgive and forget, especially if the person is special to us. However, forgiveness is for them to grow and to not make the same mistake again.
When you forgive, it takes you out of the victim tag you have placed on yourself. This boosts your confidence as well as your self-esteem. Forgiveness is not giving the other person satisfaction that they are let off the hook, instead it’s the opposite. It is giving yourself the space to understand. There are many acts that aren’t forgivable but everyone makes mistakes and holding it against them shows the immaturity on your part.
You forgive for yourself, for your mind, for your health and for their growth. If no one was forgiven then countries would still be at war. It is very easy to say that no British residents should come to India after what they did as colonisers but forgiving Britain shows the maturity we have as well as the space we have given both countries to heal. So, forgive but don’t forget.
Diya Barmecha
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