The Trishul Of Acceptance | Blog by Shivanshi, 17, Kolkata

THE TRISHUL OF ACCEPTANCE 

In life, we often seek approval, wishing everyone would appreciate us. Yet, it’s unrealistic. No matter our actions, someone may disagree or criticize us. The tale of Lord Shiva and Goddess Parvati reinforces this reality.

Once, Lord Shiva invited Goddess Parvati to accompany him on a walk to Mrityulok. Landing in a small village with their faithful companion, Nandi the bull, they set out on foot. Despite their divine presence, the villagers failed to recognise them, and soon, murmurs and judgements began to circulate. 

One group of villagers questioned why Shiva and Parvati were walking when they had the majestic bull Nandi to carry them. Prompted by these comments, Shiva suggested that they both ride Nandi, but as they did so, another group criticised them for the perceived mistreatment of the bull.

Each time they tried to accommodate the opinions of others, different judgements arose. The cycle continued as the couple switched positions, with Parvati on the bull and Shiva walking. Again, judgements followed, questioning traditional roles and advocating for equality. Realising that no matter what they did, objections would persist, Shiva eventually tied Nandi to a trishul and lifted him up.

The story of Shiva and Parvati serves as a timeless reminder that seeking universal approval is an impossible quest. We must focus on being true to ourselves, regardless of the judgments others may pass. Good deeds may be criticized by some, while bad deeds may be condemned by others. Thus, the fear of judgement should never hinder us from following our hearts and doing what we believe is right.

As I reflect on this story, I am reminded of my own struggles with the fear of judgment. In school, I often hesitated to answer questions, fearing what my peers might think of my responses. This fear led me to miss out on countless opportunities, hindering my growth and potential. 

However, I eventually came to realise that seeking approval from others is an endless pursuit. The opinions of others are beyond our control, and our focus should be on our own values and beliefs. Our self-worth should not be dependent on external validation but rather on our perception of ourselves and the love and support of our close family and friends.

In social settings, the dilemma is whether staying silent might make us seem simple-minded, while speaking up could label us as talkative. Instead of striving for external approval, find contentment by being genuinely good from within. Nurturing virtues brings inner peace despite external judgements.

The tale of Shiva and Parvati reminds us that seeking universal approval is impossible. Focus on being true to yourself, regardless of others’ judgments. Strive to be a better version of yourself, valuing your opinions and the love shared with loved ones—these values matter most in the end.